While growing up, there used to be two ways of doing/executing some task. One correct way, and the other incorrect way. And one never realizes that this 2-way rule gets so incorporated in your way of leading life - that we so easily judge others based on our narrow judgement of how the world works.
I was no different carrying this bag of my narrow viewpoint and adding few more rules every year in this bag. One must study in college, one must get a job, when one should buy a car, when should I get married [and this list is endless]. Anytime I would met some, we'll discuss the usual talks. In 20s it was about going for higher degree, settling in a new place, getting a new job, renting a new place, getting married. In 30s, talks revolve more around buying a new place or a car, investment lessons, kids, travelling.
We, as a human, always have a tendency to find the like-minded persons, create a bond over likeable stuff, and then continue to live in this so-called cocoon for the rest of our lives. Same set or friends, same ideas, same jobs - and how conveniently we start believing that this is how the life must be lead.
Few years back, I thought how anyone who doesn't fit in this model or someone who's not leading a life as per my model could be happy. I'm not the one who created this template of leading life, that's how everyone [I know of] has lead or will lead the life. How can one leave a job in 30s to go back to his/her parents? How can one who dropped out of school in 20s could end up finishing graduate school at 42? Can one, in her sane mind, continue renting a place while having thousands of cash sitting idle in checking account? One of my friends [with financial resources] hate travelling and has never been to any other state than Florida. Do these people exist?
In last few years, I've started appreciating people or humans [in general] more who doesn't fit this so-called successful-life-template. After all, that's the beauty of this human life and the diversity. There's no such template: we humans, sitting idle on our weekends with our life-minded friends, created and are leading our life as per this template. There are perhaps millions of such templates in different parts of the world, and millions such small cocoons of people living their lives totally unaware of things happening outside their nest. Still nothing wrong with this too.
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There are a few outliers who transcend conventional norms, but the majority of us have have been caught up in the chase for money, IMO. It seems to be the driving force behind most of our decisions, shaping the templates we followed in life. It’s sad, but true. Get good grades in 10th, then 12th, college, get a job, marriage, and the list is endless... All to live a comfortable life that cmes with money. Haha!
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